Family mediation, by definition, is the overall process in which a mediator (a neutral or independent person) helps families to arrive at workable solutions after divorce or separation for finances, child support, and other things.
In family mediation or dispute resolution, the mediator encourages both parties to come to a consensus after identifying underlying problems and encouraging both parties to understand each other points. Most times, with family mediation, going to court becomes unnecessary.
How much does family mediation cost?
First off, if you choose to go the legal path, just so you know it’s an expensive path. Family mediation is cheaper and even faster than all those court proceedings and back and forth arguments. Though we cannot provide you with a specific amount (because fees vary from region to region), all we can say is it’s affordable and far more cost-effective.
What happens in the process?
The family mediation usually begins with an introductory meeting. You and your ex-partner may have to sit before the mediator or meet separately with them if you can’t stand each other. The second type is not an easy one and may take a longer time.
The mediator will then pay attention to what both of you have to say without taking sides. They will provide you with workable solutions and may also converse with your kids to see if they are ideal enough for them. At the end of the process, they will draft a “memorandum of recognizing”. This is a document that details what you and your ex-partner had agreed on at the end of all sessions.
Sometimes, If one of the parties doesn’t agree and the process lingers, they get lawyered up.
Who are family mediators?
The Family Mediation Council is in charge of registering all mediators. They ensure that these mediators have completed some training courses led by Professional Practice Consultants (PPC) before they are inducted.
You must not necessarily be a lawyer to qualify. However, most candidates have degrees or are qualified in social sciences, therapy or counselling professions, etc.
Is family mediation only for adults?
No. There’s a child inclusive processes that provides the child with an opportunity to pour their hearts out to a mediator. You also have the choice of allowing the mediator to pass your thoughts to your children, as this may help your parents shape their decisions in the process. Though the ultimate decisions lie with your parents, your thoughts can influence them.
PS. If you are 10 or over 10, you have the right to request a mediator. However, your parents will have to agree to this decision.
Is the process reasonable?
Mediators are professionals and are usually unbiased in their dealings with each party. However, they won’t do their job effectively if you don’t cooperate. Though they may not give you legal advice or guidance, they ensure you and your ex-partner come to a workable solution or agreement. Need a family mediation service? You can contact one and book an appointment online today!